My mom was getting so skinny. She was usually so
pessimistic about her health and about daily life, but she was finally
sputtering off positive thoughts and words of encouragement. When the
funeral finally arrived, my best friend and my ex-boyfriend didn’t even come
with me. I woke up absolutely devastated and realized it was all a dream.
Thank God I woke up.
My mom died, no one was there to support me and everything was turning
upside down. What was this dream telling me? My first instinct was to feel
scared, but when I sought comfort in my Everything Dreams Book, by
Trish and Rob MacGregor, which offers insights on meanings of dreams, I was
comforted to discover dreaming about death does not necessarily foreshadow
that person's demise.
Dreams are something we all have in common, even if we can’t remember them.
Most of us have probably wondered what they mean, if there was a reason we
were having them. Sometimes we may even wake up hoping a dream was actually
reality.
The best time to try to tackle a dream is right after having one. Amy Hale,
a certified hypnotherapist in Ann Arbor, said more often than not, people
understand the meaning of their dreams upon waking up from their slumber.
She also said the dreamer is the best interpreter, not a book or a
psychologist. In extreme cases, hypnotherapy could help by focusing the
brain, which allows for a better perspective on interpretation of dreams,
events and emotions.
Anne Minniberg, a hypnotherapist in Ann Arbor, said it’s common for people
to dream more at different times in their lives, depending on their
feelings. “Some people who are stressed or traumatized may be working out
the trauma through their dreams,” Minniberg said. “This can be a very
useful, therapeutic tool in recovery, as it would provide people useful,
therapeutic information.”
Heather Doepke, psychology sophomore, agrees with Minniberg. "I think I'm
more likely to have a dream when I'm happy," Doepke said. "When I'm stressed
out or upset, I can't even get a good night's sleep, let alone concentrate
on dreaming."
Dreaming is an important part of the sleep process. Dreaming is needed to
process emotional data such as fear or excitement, Hale said. “People who
are good at remembering their dreams will often notice differences in their
emotional content.”
Even sexually intimate dreams, or dreams about sex itself, are healthy and
common for people of all ages to experience. Unfortunately, Hale said if
you’re dreaming about a rendezvous with your favorite Hollywood star, it’s
more likely a dream of desire, not a prophecy.
Minniberg said dreams about sexual intimacy are most likely wishes that may
be unfulfilled, traumatic sexual encounters from the past or pleasant
memories of previous encounters. Hale also said everyone has dreams of
intimacy, which can range from a touch-and-go all the way to animalistic
attraction. “They are still quite healthy and can often determine what a
person needs or desires from a relationship,” she said.
Alan Keating, a general business/management freshman, said that dreams gives
you a good look into what a person is feeling at that time in their lives.
"Dreaming is free thinking without other people's interjections," Keating
said. "They don't tell you anything about the person, just them at the time
of the dream."
Contrary to what we might think, Hale said all our dreams unfold in color.
But, just because we all dream in color, that doesn't mean we will recall
the images as such. "It's interesting that because our dreams fade so
quickly upon awakening, we often recall them in gray tones," Hale said.
Not all of us can remember our dreams upon waking, Hale said the average
person experiences dreams nightly. “Since our conscious is asleep, it is
often difficult to recall that dream actually occurred,” Hale said. “We
dream during the REM cycle of our sleep time. Without it, a person is likely
to hallucinate in their waking moments.”
Bottom line: sleep and dreams are important. They offer insight to our
actual feelings about our daily lives and also make us aware of our wants
and desires. Naturally, the only way to have a dream is during sleep, which
is very important both psychologically and physically. Minniberg warns,
without sleep, people begin to suffer detrimental physical and emotional
problems, as well as impaired perception.
Physically, lack of sleep deprives the body of energy it needs to replenish
what it lost during the day. If we avoid sleep, our body will shut itself
down by either weakening the immune system or making the body more
susceptible to illness. "During REM, we dream - without reaching REM, the
possibility of a person hallucinating, shadows, insects, voices or other
things could begin to happen," Hale said.
Without the necessary time our body and mind need to get rest and to digress
through dreaming, we won't have a sufficient amount of energy to stay
productive. As a result, our thoughts are likely to become more depressed
and possibly counter-productive.
Although we may not be able to understand them immediately, dreams play an
important role in keeping us healthy and in touch with our subconscious. But
remember, not all dreams need interpretation — some are just that: a dream.
